The reasoning behind this day's blog is something every living person has to live through. Gossip. Yes. The all infamous and invaluable quality every human being has and cannot help to blurt it out. Of course, wait a second, they do have the power to not talk about people behind their backs.
Back in the old days, or whatever, it usually was just girls in upper cliques who used to talk behind people's backs. Now, it is everybody no matter if they are guys, girls, adults or children. It all comes together because people just find it natural to rip out the missing pieces in your life (which they would know if they take the time to know who you were) and replace it with significant pieces from their own minds. Crazy!
It is the most deteriorating thing someone could do to another innocent person.
For example, I use to think the gossip was a tool used by all those talkative, popular students. One time, I was sitting out on just ONE dance and decided to sit by a kid who is usually quiet and shy. While sitting there, I started to talk to them to see how they were liking the dance.
The person said that it was going okay, but they were angry that their friend was dancing with popular people. After talking with her further, the person started to spread nasty facts (sorry, lies) about the other person and what it entailed was gossip and rumors.
That was when I realized even the shyest people you know gossip, whether you know about it or not. It comes out in some form. The reason for gossip is unknown, although psychologists think they have found the perfect answer. It makes me sad that we have to justify gossip as something psychological when it should not even be thought of. RAWRGH!
Plus, having concern about people is not really gossip until you fill in stuff that might not be true at all and basically assuming everything which can lead to the hardcore gossip.
I have so many issues with this and even most of my friends do it without knowing it. They just get crazier and crazier. I have so much to do tonight and would like to take a break from academics to focus on my traveling, friends and family to get some happiness bar filled up. Or to be honest, to be happy about my current lifestyle and make sure everybody I am friends with still connects with me.
Have some fun everybody,
Switch from the purpose to the meaning to the individual to life!
That would be me, Alex Lang.
Sweet!
Asking someone a question is the right way to find out something about someone, asking them straight to their face. JUST ASK THEM. If you ask, it should not be taken as assuming anything, it should be taken as a thought that you have in your head that you just want to know the truth about, that way you will feel better because you know the truth from that person and you wont have to worry about gossipping to anyone else about it. It's kind of like say you get a look from someone, and you think they are looking at you like they are better than you, when really they could just be admiring the way you look. You will never know and shouldn't gossip about to anyone until you know the truth. So, you ask them sometime, IF YOU REALLY wanted to know, [this is just an example..] If it is something that could be taken two different ways, then I think it is okay to wonder, not assume, but wonder, and find out. Then, there is a whole different thing about telling people the truth about someone, that is also gossipping because you are talking about someone else. ALSO, the good kind of gossipping is spreading good words about someone else. Sometimes, the truth can be bad...something that shouldn't be spread around because it could hurt the other person. I down right agree that people should not knowingly trash talk someone else when they know absolutely nothing. An assumption is an assumption. If you shouldn't assume something bad, shouldn't you also not assume something good? Unless that something is a thing that could only go one way? Such as WOW, YOU ARE such a great person! That is a straight up compliment that would be totally weird to ask...Wait, did you really mean that I'm a bad person? Lol...it just doesn't happen like that.
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